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This Isn’t a Competition

This is not a competitionA friend of mine shared his experience receiving massage with me recently and I was horrified. He’s been seeing a massage therapist on a regular basis for several months. That would indicate that she is a good fit and that he enjoys seeing her, right? Nope.

He’s scared to see his massage therapist

She causes pain every time he goes to see her. I asked, “have you told her that you want lighter pressure?” He said, “I do, but she tells me it’s what I need and that she has petite women who come in to see her that can take far more pressure than I can.”


This is not a competition. This is not a test to see who can score the highest on gritting their teeth through extreme pain.

Deep tissue massage, or any massage, doesn’t need to be painful to be effective. Seriously. Run screaming from any practitioner who insists there needs to be pain in a treatment. And definitely run if they try to shame you for speaking up about your needs.

I am not here to fight with your body

I am here to soothe and calm the nervous system. If your muscles are clenching while I’m working, we need to adjust the pressure. That’s an indication that your body is protecting itself and needs a different approach.

Don’t worry- you’ll still feel better after a massage that isn’t the deepest you’ve ever managed to survive. By softening my approach to deeper layers of muscle tissue, your nervous system will have an opportunity to relax. It’s a collaboration between the practitioner and the receiver on the table. And with Ashiatsu Barefoot Massage, the pressure delivered is broader because the feet don’t have bony knuckles that can cause discomfort.

Have questions? I’d love to answer them at your next massage!

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